Dating person older than you
For example, even if you yourself use occasionally, don't get involved with someone who has an addiction and even if you don't need him to have a lot of money, don't get involved with a guy who is financially shaky.
Are you dating an older fellow or thinking about dipping your toes into that more mature water? Or, in Jess's (Zooey Deschanel's character, for those of you who aren't fans yet) case, don't ask about his health: "How's your prostate? Our bodies are decaying."DO relish in the fact that guys get better looking with age, but you'll always be the hot, younger girlfriend.
DO be lovey dovey, but DON' T nickname him something based on his age (Fancypants is cool, though).
Does any man really like to be called your Sexy Silver Fox?
Note that I said, "man of normal maturity." Not all people mature normally. This may be a non-issue, if your interests are more cerebral and more like those of older people.2. His expectations of you will be of a person similar to his own age.5.
I can think of one acquaintance (on the autism spectrum) who at 30 years old behaved more like a bright, but slightly troubled, 13 year old than like the unemployed Ph. His health may deteriorate, especially if he has not take care of his body. If you are not, things ain't workin' for long.4. If you are in the 18-early twenties range, he may not be interested in much more than casually dating and fucking like rabbits.
I wasn’t sure how it would go, yet there he was, charming the pants off them all by himself, busting out his A-material small talk with some friends in a corner. Instead I shoved a cracker in my mouth and mulled over her question as I pretended it was hard to chew. Yes, my new man was older than me, much older than me.
After politely playing 20 questions with Sue about my new boyfriend, I knew this was the one she was getting at.
If you think it is better to tell him when im older, what age do you think would be okay? Keep this "Creepiness factor" equation in mind: Halve the age of the older person and add 7. And if a guy of 31 is chasing her, I'd be suspicious of his motives, his maturity or both because he knows this (or he should). Less likely to share your interests, if those are the typical interests of your age.OTOH, if the girl is 30 and the man is 43, the inequity is pretty small, since the girl has had her twenties to do much of her growing up. I.e., he probably isn't going clubbing with you. You can bet that guy has a drinking or substance problem.He was more exciting to be with than any of the 20-something guys I knew.
And before I even knew what a great screw he was, I was already smitten with his wit and the way he filled out a pair of pants. Should I really have let 15 years come between me and happiness, just so I could avoid judgment from girls like Sue?
But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.