Dating a woman with a problem child
It’s a cluster of self-limiting beliefs that holds people back from meeting new and exciting potential partners, whether it’s for sex or for relationships.
This is one of the most pernicious myths about dating out there.
A woman’s supposed ability to get laid easily or quickly doesn’t correspond with the desirability of the available sex partners.
A woman could go into a bar and pick up a man for sex, yes, but it doesn’t mean that she’s going to necessarily find someone she’s .
Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars.
Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.
They promote literally impossible standards in myriad ways – both overt and subtle.
Now to be sure: there are of women out there who will happily be the aggressor when it comes to relationships. But for the sake of argument, let’s look at women may not want to make the first move.
It’s not a real surprise to find out that a Nice Guy who doesn’t take care of his appearance and believes that he’s owed a girlfriend is having a hard time getting that 10 to give him her number.
Meanwhile he sees Studly Good Night go up, slap her on the ass, tell her obscene jokes and takes her home that night to fuck her until her eyes bleed.
QED: all women want are hot assholes, not nice guys who may not be the social ideal. Ugly men do not get girlfriends or wives.” And yet somehow Patton Oswalt is happily married with a lovely daughter. For that matter, we can add Dennis Kucinich, Woody Allen, Henry Kissinger…
Look around and all you see are beautiful people fucking other beautiful people while wonderful – if less facially gifted – men are stuck home alone. In fact, the “ugly guy pulling hot women” trope is so well known that TVTropes has an entry on it. It’s the 21st century, a post-Third Wave Feminist era.There are many women who struggle to find dates, whether it’s because they’re too tall, too big, too whatever. This complaint translates as “the hot woman I want to fuck but won’t give me the time of day can get sex any time she wants.” Beyond that, the ability to get a sexual partner within a pre-set amount of time or with whatever suitable definition of “ease” might be isn’t exclusive to women.